The allure of the quick fix
I know firsthand what it’s like to be the one on the couch. I understand the importance of authenticity in a therapeutic relationship, especially when you are taking a chance and being vulnerable. So let me share a couple thoughts up front...
Most of us come to therapy hoping to get fixed. It’s our motivation for a lot of things. We buy overpriced leggings or coffee, participate in a juice cleanse, break up or get married, or get a dog, hoping this will be the solution. Advertising and social media conspire 24/7 to convince us that our fix is one purchase away or attainable through some three-step formula so simple a gerbil could master it. And we are eventually, inevitably, disappointed. There is no substitute for inner heaing.
I am not in the business of “fixing” anyone. You are not a machine. You are a mind, body, and soul, a beautifully designed creation, and you were intricately woven together by a divine hand. Sometimes this life gets messy and so do we.
Deeply Rooted Psychotherapy got its name because the issues people seek therapy for are often layered and multifaceted. The issue or so-called diagnosis that we struggle with, or that others observe, is only the tree and its leaves. The roots – your origin story - are buried under symptoms and efforts to cope. Sometimes a branch dies or leaves brown at the edges or develop holes or ragged areas. Tended to with proper care, though, a tree or a plant can be revived to a healthier state.
New growth is a process that takes time, but healing, too, can become deeply rooted. It is my honor to partner with people for some of their journey and help them find their way back home to themselves after we’ve cleared away the underbrush and tangles of past trauma, and reimagined what life could be.
We know that each plant thrives under different conditions specific to them- a certain kind of soil, the ideal amount of water, fertilization, type of container, a harmonious balance of sun and shade. And if a plant starts to look droopy, a gardener doesn’t throw up their hands and blame the plant or assume moral failing on its part. We recognize it is doing the best it can. So, the response is to tend to its optimal environment and watch for even small signs of growth.
Although we are sometimes less accepting of this in ourselves, people are not so different.
Our work together is to go through the process of identifying barriers, disentangling whatever is in your way, and creating optimal growth conditions, so that you can move forward with a sense of confidence, purpose, and peace.